We are volitional beings - we make choices. Some of the choices we make have to do with the lies we are believing. Our choices become our goals.
Here are a list of goals that we make because of our lies - see if any stand out to you:
- I must be good enough - perfectionist
- I must succeed
- I must be smart
- I must be right
- I must look good
- I must be in control
- I must be wanted
- Your turn...
We all have a style of releasing these goals. Here are some styles of releasing:
Here is an example of how this all works:
If I believe that I am not good enough (lie) then I try and compensate (unconsciously) by having to be good enough...in fact, I have to be perfect. I find myself being controlling - it is my style of releasing. If I am "perfect" then I will be loved, otherwise, I see myself as unlovable.
Unlovable. There it is - the kicker.
All of the lies and goals, they all have to do with what we all ultimately want in this life: to be loved unconditionally.
This is why we all need to be living out of the truth.
Here's is some good advice from Cathy Bowman:
"Deal with and repent of your own "core lies" so you don't demand from and damage your child as much. To determine your "core lies," watch for things that make you angry, anxious, or depressed. The core lies are usually under there. Whatever goals we’ve created because of our core lies have to go. For me, I wanted everyone to think I was a good mom. I had to let go of what other people thought of me because it was affecting how I dealt with my girls.
Also memorize and believe Psalm 27:10 (the version I memorized, I think, was King James): "When my father and my mother fail me, the LORD will take me up." (It doesn't say "if" ). You will fail and God loves them more than you and sees all. They need their own personal relationship with the Father who will not fail."
Come back tomorrow and will tie it all up! (Have you figured out your core lie/lies and goals yet?)
Part 2 - What Is A Core Lie?
Part 3 - Determining Your Core Lies
Part 4 - What Is Behind Our Emotional Reactions?
Part 5 - Determining The Goals You've Made Because Of Your Lie
Part 6 - Living In The Truth - Letting Go of Our Lies and Goals
( I will announce the winner of the CD giveaway tomorrow!)