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Friday, February 20, 2009

Breaking Free From Our Core Lies - What Is A Core Lie?



Beginning a series like this one is tough for me.

How do I begin? How do I communicate the monumental significance of understanding and dealing with our core lie/lies? How do I...

I am doubting myself.

I am doubting myself because my biggest core lie is that I am not good enough...that somehow I shouldn't be handling this topic because I will not do it justice. The truth is, I may not communicate it all perfectly, but I know God has laid it on my heart to write about it and has given me the grace to trust Him for this series.

Are you ready to trust Him to take you through the journey of finding out and being set free from your core lie? If the answer is yes, let's begin!

(As a quick side note, this series has nothing to do with the book Lies Women Believe, although it's a good one!)

What is a core lie?

A core lie is a lie we believe about ourselves that resides so deep down inside of us that it has almost become a part of our personality. We don't know it's there, and further more, we have learned how to live in such a way that it subconsciously controls much of our thought life and behaviors. It is like a rock that sits upon our heart, weighing it down, suffocating it, but it's been there so long that we have grown used to it...so used to it that we don't even know it's not supposed to be there. We set unconscious goals because of it, we react because of it and we put our lies on others...especially our children if the lie is not dealt with.

Why does our core lie affect us so much?

God has created us to be emotional, rational (thinking), and volitional (choice makers) beings. Because we are made this way, we learn how to cope and relate this way. The lie/lies we have ingrained in our very hearts (and we all have them) tend to dictate our emotions, thought processes and choices because we have learned and believed them so faithfully...many times without even realizing it.

Where does our core lie come from?

Generally speaking, our core lie/lies come from different things in our childhood. The truth of the matter, however, is that ultimately our core lies come from the enemy who continues to whisper our lies to us through the years. We believe them, we trust them, and we sin by obeying them and not living in the truth. Most often, we are in bondage to them.

If we do not deal with and repent of our core lies, our spiritual lives will remain stagnant in areas that God wants to free and mature.

For the remainder of this series, I want you to make sure you have a journal present, because I sincerely want you to seek our your core lies so that you can be set free. Dealing with our core lies is, in all honesty, a life-long process because God will bring different things up at different times as He sees we are ready to deal with them. However, I believe that God wants to free many of you (and myself) from a core lie during this very series.

Here's what I want you to do over the weekend:

Start praying that God would reveal your core lie/lies. Every time you find yourself angry, depressed, anxious, or fearful, I want you to write it in your journal. Write why you are feeling that emotion. We will "talk" more about these emotions and how they will help reveal your core lie/lies on Tuesday, when we continue the series.


"...He [Satan] was a murderer from the beginning and does not stand in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaks a falsehood, he speaks what is natural to him, for he is a liar [himself] and the father of lies and of all that is false." John 8:44
You can subscribe here if you'd like to be kept updated with this series.

23 comments:

HeathahLee said...

I'm so glad you are tackling this. I'm really looking forward to these posts.

MaMa K said...

Thank you for doing this. I think God is going to use this series for a great work in me. I have never even hear of this before you mentioned it in earlier posts.

Blessings and Joy said...

Thank you for doing this. You are good enough. He will equip you and speak through you. I am blessed already and looking forward to the journey. It is timely and needed!!!

Lisa said...

Great start, Sara Mae. You are more than enough. You are an overcomer in Christ and His very own co-worker. Your explanation, questions, and instructions are right on.

I have gone through good Christian counseling dealing with my core beliefs strongly influenced by being a child of abuse and teen years of rebellion. Yes, it is ongoing process, replacing core beliefs that are untrue with God's truth. But the process is so worth it, especially for the sake of our children. I'm glad to be reminded of that through your series.

I already know where God is taking me on this journey, revealing to me yesterday that one of my core beliefs is that I am overwhelmed. I wrote about it at my blog, if you have a chance to read it. God used your blog and the 5:16 club as part of the replacing lies with truth process!

Thanks, again!!

Lisa

Miranda said...

Thanks Sarah for doing this series I need this so much right now! I find myself dealing with this more and more!

Friend Chick said...

We always claim that "children are so resilient", and they are to a certain extent. I think often times we as parents allow our lies to affect our children without even knowing the damage that we are causing them. I'm praying that through this, I will be cleansed of some of my lies...ones that I am pretty sure are lurking in my heart, as well as some that I'm not even aware of. Thank you for helping us tackle the tough stuff.

Erica said...

Thank you for stopping by and giving me some encouragment. I can think of a couple of core lies right off the bat that the enemy has sent to me that I have a hard time not believing. I plan to read along on this!

Amanda Jo said...

I can't wait to see what the Lord has in store for all of us through this series! Do you lead women's ministry at your church? 'Cause you'd be GREAT at it!

Heather said...

Thank you for doing this series. In the past few months, I have encountered you and two other sources that are talking about core lies/spiritual bondage. I'm starting to think that God is trying to tell me something! :)

christinnjon said...

I'm so excited Sarah Mae...I know there are some things I'm dealing with. I think it may be very similar to yours...not being good enough. Oh man. There is a really neat book that talks about women and fulfilling their "adventurous" side of being a woman. You may have read it: Captivating. Anyways, it talks about women being too much and not enough, at the same time. Isn't that the truth?!
Looking forward to this series. I will be continuing my "Household Management" series next Tuesday as well...so come by and check it out! I'll be writing on Time Management. (Something I, myself, need!) Hugs!
Also, THANK YOU SO MUCH for praying for my son. He is home and doing well. Has a follow-up appt. this afternoon and is still on meds. I really appreciate your prayers. They have been heard and felt. ((hugs))

Denise @ Sunflowers, Chocolate and Little Boys said...

I have my journal ready and I cant wait to start this journey with you.God Bless!!

Composing Hallelujahs said...

oh this is going to be hard but really good.

Isabel said...

This is so good! I never heard such teaching before. I am embarking in this journey whole-heartidly. Can't keep my eyes open because I'm so tired, but I am so happy I switched computer on just to read this.

Lisa @ Stop and Smell the Chocolates said...

Sarah Mae, I am excited (and scared!) about this! I think it's a great series and I am looking forward to what the Lord will reveal to me during it.

Thanks so much for all that you do and for following what the Lord puts on your heart to do. We love you!!

Jacquelyn said...

Guess I'll be meditating on Jeremiah 17:19
"The heart is more deceitful than all else And is desperately sick; Who can understand it?

and Psalm 51:6
Behold you desire truth in the innermost being

and Psalm 19:4
May the word of my mouth and the meditations of my heart be pleasing in your sight oh Lord.

thanks for the topic.

Josh H. said...

Hmmmm. Am I the only guy reading this?

Oh well.

Too many men in the church refuse to face these sorts of things because doing so is inherently unmanly. I'm not sure why that is.

But this is a good thing you're doing. Keep up the great work. I look forward to some good insight on core lies.

Pajama Mama said...

very well said...thanks for tacking this. i will pray for God to reveal the lies I believe this weekend-thanks,
-kristen

Upstatemomof3 said...

This will be good for me. I could definitely use something to help me get to the bottom of my 'stuff."

LA4j said...

Although I have had Godly counsel on on this subject, I continue to struggle with identifying and repenting from the "core lies". I have heard that knowing is "half the battle" but I must add it is the easy half. Allowing the Lord to remove the "core lies" is where the real battle lies. As you stated they are so apart of us that bringing them to the alter and true repentance for believing those lies is a real struggle for me. I thank you for assisting others in this process. I will be subscribing.

Katie @ 3 Blondes and a Redhead said...

I'm looking forward to this! I'm starting my journal now...

Jacquelyn said...

I know that you are a little busy right now and I'm assuming the topic is on hiatus. Is there a book or other source you can point me to in the meantime?

Mimi said...

I'm a little connecting to this blog and this thread, but I'm in and I intend to play 52 pick-up to get up speed. I'm fairly sure what my core lie happens to be. My parents gave it to me when I was a small child and I have carried it with me all my life.

Sandee said...

wow, I am behind on this, but catching up. The I am not good enough is one of my lies too, in so many ways. As I started journaling, more and more of the icky self-talk, that I wouldn't even admit, came out of my pen....

I have to go read what is next...because, gee..some of this stuff I think, well that is true, I am. :(