A wise man once told me that 99% of anger comes from a lie. Righteous anger is very rare.
After learning about core lies, I have seen first hand in myself personally that when I get angry, I am usually believing a lie. For example, I found myself very angry at a woman who was mentoring me because she approached a couple of girls that I was discipling and asked them if they would be interested in doing a bible study with her (this was a long time ago, so my memory might not be getting the circumstances exactly as they were, but it was something like this). I realize now that this is petty, but at the time, I was furious! I felt like she was going behind my back. She was trying to steal "my" girls. She was a bad bad woman. I called up aforementioned wise man and vented my obviously righteous anger. After spouting my frustrations, he calmly told me the above "statistic." I thought he wasn't listening. Oh, he was.
Turns out, I was believing a lie - the lie that I wasn't good enough. When she offered to have a bible study with "my" girls, I took it as a personal attack on my ability to be a good bible study facilitator (writing this now almost makes me laugh at how silly this is). She was blocking my goal - the goal that I had to be good enough...I had to be perfect (more on goals later).
Emotions have such power to rule over us if we do not take them captive to the truth. The reason I am having you write down your emotional reactions to things is so that you can start to process what is really behind that reaction. Here is the breakdown of why we experience the emotions we do:
Anger = Blocked Goal
Anxiety = Uncertain Goal
Depression/Sense of Inadequacy = Impossible Goal
Fear = Uncertain Goal
Update: A reader asked, "Can you explain this a bit more? Maybe I'm just slow, but does a statement like Depression = Impossible goals mean, a- If you are depressed, you tend to set impossible goals or b - Depression results from setting impossible goals?"
Great question! It means that you have set for yourself an impossible goal to achieve - you may not even know what that goal is, which is why we are going to be "talking" about goals more on Tuesday. Start thinking about what your impossible goal may be.
Tuesday we will look at the goals we choose because of the lie we are believing. In the meantime, start to think about what unconscious goals you may have made because of your lie/lies. Try journaling like this:
Angry -Scenerio -Ask God to show you belief behind emotion. What goal?
I'm praying for you!
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