"If my husband were godly, loving, caring, sensitive, (fill in appropriate adjective) then yea I would submit to him, but as he is, I just can't...at least not fully."
It sure is hard to submit to our husbands sometimes, especially because they are...sinners.
There is just no perfect (or even close to perfect) husband/man out there, and yet God calls us to submit anyway. Kinda like how God commands men to love their wives, sacrificing for them, even to the point of death - even when that wife is a nag, physically rejects him, and/or disrespects him (we all do this, don't we?). We are all guilty, but God's commands don't change. They don't change when our husband makes a wrong decision. They don't change when he hurts our feelings. They don't change when he doesn't read his bible every day or sing loud enough in church or...
Do you want your husband to succeed or fail? If you want him to succeed in this life (for whatever eternal purpose God has carved out for him, whether you know what it is or not), you must submit yourself to your husband's authority...in all things (but sin). It is more than the notion of "someone has to be the driver." It is an attitude of the heart that says, "I trust you God, so I will be my husband's biggest fan, his teammate, his lover, his best friend, his confidante, and his helper...even when I don't want to be."
I have a challenge for you. For the next 24 hours I want you to say, "okay" to your husband, whatever he asks of you, even if you are in disagreement or don't want to. Oh, and you can't say it rolling your eyes or with a mocking tone - doesn't count that way! Be soft. Pray. Say, "okay."
Let me know how it goes.
"Wives, be subject (be submissive and adapt yourselves) to your own husbands as [a service] to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife as Christ is the Head of the church, Himself the Savior of [His] body." Ephesians 5:22,23 (Amplified)
"Women were taken out of a man's side and brought to him to help him and complete him in his work and as a person; their partnership in work is indispensable and interdependent...man's headship and woman's membership in marriage are implicit from creation," (Five Aspects of Woman).
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