Anyone can share an opinion, but if you want your opinion to be effective (perhaps in persuading someone of something), there are some guidelines it would be prudent to follow.
8 Ways To Share Your Opinion Effectively
1. Share Your Opinion With Pure Motives
Why do you want to share your opinion? Think it about this for a moment - take some time to evaluate your motives. I personally have realized as of late that I tend to share my opinion in the hopes that people will agree with me. In and of itself, there is nothing wrong with that. The problem is if they don't end up agreeing with me or what I think is right, I feel an intense need to make them agree with me. I'm learning to let this go. If someone disagrees with me or my convictions, it's okay! My identity doesn't need to be wrapped up in other people's decisions.
"All a man's ways seem innocent to him, but motives are weighed by the LORD. Proverbs 16:2
2. Share Your Opinion With Wisdom & Care
If you truly care about someone and believe that what you have to say is important enough for them to hear it, be wise in how you approach them. Listen to them and draw them out. Let them see that you are genuinely interested in who they are and why they believe what they do.
"The purposes of a man's heart are deep waters, but a man of understanding draws them out." Proverbs 20:5
3. Share Your Opinion With Caution
Be very careful how you spout your opinions. Take the time to evaluate what you have to say before you say it. Pray. Perhaps it would be better to say little, or even nothing at all. Choose your words wisely.
"A brother offended is harder to be won than a strong city, And contentions are like the bars of a citadel." Proverbs 18:19
"Rash language cuts and maims." Proverbs 12:18
4. Share Your Opinion With Humility
Sometimes it can be best to hold your tongue unless someone asks for your opinion. When you do decide to share your opinion unsolicited, remember that only God has cornered the market on truth. You may think you have the answer/s, but you are but a person who battles with a sin nature along with everybody else. Remember how sure you were about things when you were younger? I bet you've changed many strong opinions since then! Leave room for growth.
"Humility is to make a right estimate of oneself." Charles H. Spurgeon
"Do not be wise in your own eyes..." Proverbs 3:7
"...with humility comes wisdom." Proverbs 11:2
5. Share Your Opinion With A Soft Tongue
Always try and speak your opinions with kindness. Kindness beckons the ear to listen.
"...a gentle tongue can break a bone." Proverbs 25:15
"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger." Proverbs 15:1
6. Share Your Opinion In The Right Circumstances
Doing this often requires patience. If you want to convince someone of something, you might not want to start sharing your opinion while that person has a crying baby, getting ready to go somewhere, just lost a job, etc. Pay attention to the circumstances.
"Like apples of gold in settings of silver Is a word spoken in right circumstances." Proverbs 25:11
7. Share Your Opinion With Discernment
Use discernment with whom you share your opinion.
Do not reprove a scoffer, or he will hate you, Reprove a wise man and he will love you. Proverbs 9:8
8. Share Your Opinion With Confidence
If you have prayed about it, or sense the Holy Spirit nudging you to speak truth to someone about something, then speak with confidence. We have confidence in the word of God and we can speak the truth boldly, in love and kindness, with caution, discernment, pure motives, and humility. How can we be humble and confident? We remain humble by keeping in mind that we are not the Holy Spirit; we trust God for the outcome.
In the fear of the LORD there is strong confidence, And his children will have refuge. Proverbs 14:26
In this technological age of email, chatting, and blogging, it can be tempting to forget that real people in real life with real issues/troubles/hurts are sitting behind the computer screen. We have the opportunity to shut down others with our words or enlighten them and bring good. As we journey together, let's continue to persevere in truth, authenticity, and kindness. (Effective opinions work for me!)
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