tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5845574752812091685.post6331036119378518539..comments2024-01-07T03:29:03.439-05:00Comments on Like a warm cup of coffee: Burdens or Blessings? Dealing With DisobedienceSarah Maehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15079648125245754566noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5845574752812091685.post-42150041628308859252009-06-14T22:28:48.329-04:002009-06-14T22:28:48.329-04:00You know, I just really think that the previous tw...You know, I just really think that the previous two comments are not in conflict with this post ... I believe you are talking about different things. Of course we show our children respect and treat them with common courtesy but that does not diminish the expectation that they will obey the first time they are told. I am more than happy to give my daughter notice about when we are leaving the house as a general rule; but, if we need to leave to leave immediately, I expect her to obey without delay. <br /><br />I believe teaching our children to be "good citizens" requires that they learn appropriate behavior in different situations. There are times when asking "why?" is not a matter of disrepect ... but, there are times when it most certainly is. As our children get older they learn the difference - if we have done our job well. <br /><br />Just my thoughts. I hope I have not misconstrued anyone's position as that is not my intent.Teri Lynne Underwoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10369869269013586166noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5845574752812091685.post-90566384488634202312009-06-14T06:33:24.639-04:002009-06-14T06:33:24.639-04:00sorry if i sounded too abrupt in the previous comm...sorry if i sounded too abrupt in the previous comment. what i meant to say is beautifully explained in this post at the Revived Christian Woman: http://www.revived-christian-woman.com/parenting_reasoning_standards.html<br /><br />she has another wonderful post about very young children here: http://www.revived-christian-woman.com/parenting_young.html<br /><br />scroll down that link for further links.Jaya Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03279536115124996448noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5845574752812091685.post-30040495015924582052009-06-14T02:35:22.920-04:002009-06-14T02:35:22.920-04:00i do not like the term "first time obedience&...i do not like the term "first time obedience"...are you raising curious, lively, inspired 'future citizens of this world' or starting a nunnery? children are children because they behave like children. they learn to do things by constant repetition, ok. <br /><br />teaching them to obey the authority figures(in this case, their parents) without question is a potentially suicidial move in my opinion, because the association of authority=obedience will be too deep in their mind. what about a stranger? what about an ill-motived teacher? what about some impostor in a police uniform? heck, what about future bosses at workplaces? "obey the first time", indeed..<br /><br />if the child says hold on, wait, give me a minute, remember to GIVE FAIR WARNING.. like, tell them "we're going out in ten minutes, i expect you to be ready by then, close your coloring book after this color, you can finish that when we get back" instead of "put on your shoes on right now". <br /><br />what will you do or feel if someone comes in while you're working at the computer and switches it off, and says, "get your coat on, we're going to the mall"? <br /><br />parenting is a lot about respect.. respect the adults they will become. groom them to be respectable adults.. sure, it will take a lot of work , be less convenient for you and will be much tougher than saying "get your coat on. instant obedience", but it will be better for your children AND will make you a better parent.<br /><br />sorry for the long post, but this line just resonated with me.Jaya Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03279536115124996448noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5845574752812091685.post-24368068470581020872009-06-11T11:30:29.966-04:002009-06-11T11:30:29.966-04:00Great tips! I am working on first time obedience ...Great tips! I am working on first time obedience with my two year old, and she seems to be getting it little by little.<br /><br />She does NOT, however, understand the concept of "time out," and I'm not quite sure how to convey the idea that she has to stay in time out...it just turns in to a vicious cycle sitting her down, then disciplining her for getting back up, and I'm afraid that the connection between the undesirable behavior for which she was placed in time out and the concept of time out itself are getting lost!Muthering Heightshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06660310558298459636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5845574752812091685.post-52271945132954928062009-06-11T07:01:32.412-04:002009-06-11T07:01:32.412-04:00I have to say I really like the "First Time&q...I have to say I really like the "First Time" obedience tip - I started using that with my daughter yesterday and we had the best day we've had in about 3 weeks. It's a good reminder!<br /><br />So can you tell me how & where GRACE fits into discipline? How do you exhibit firmness and grace at the same time? God is NOT simply a God who hammers us down when we sin - He also extends grace to us. How do we teach our children about grace in discipline?Debbiehttp://thequeenmommy.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5845574752812091685.post-19449893404463219462009-06-10T18:46:04.951-04:002009-06-10T18:46:04.951-04:00I so needed this post today. I have been having t...I so needed this post today. I have been having this same issue with my 15 year old son. Some days I want to say...."Okay, that's it...I'm not playing parent anymore!" But PTL, our heavenly father has never said that to us. <br /><br />Thank you, for such a beautiful and encouraging post!<br /><br />Blessings~<br />LauraThe Red Brick Farmhousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06284797355909025022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5845574752812091685.post-18011651970804210142009-06-10T18:27:50.250-04:002009-06-10T18:27:50.250-04:00This is a great reminder. We also strive towards ...This is a great reminder. We also strive towards first time obedience and often ask them, "Did you hear what I just asked you?" if they aren't responding the first time. At five and seven, they generally do pretty well with this but being children, they totally take advantage when they know mommy isn't being very consistent!MamaHen Emhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13867805112014340425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5845574752812091685.post-7367438323505611182009-06-10T17:36:47.020-04:002009-06-10T17:36:47.020-04:00Sarah Mae,
Thanks for that post! I'm definate...Sarah Mae,<br />Thanks for that post! I'm definately blessed by yours and Christin's posts. Consistency is definately key! But how awesome will it be to hear God say to us as moms "Well Done"- that's what keeps me going!<br />Julianne :)Juliannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18088007727747970281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5845574752812091685.post-86403682201334995062009-06-10T17:04:51.094-04:002009-06-10T17:04:51.094-04:00If I had a penny every time I said "Obey the ...If I had a penny every time I said "Obey the first time" I'd be rich! We are constantly working on obedience the first time in our home. And it's a bigger challenge these days with a new baby in the house and even more limited time to discipline. But thanks for reminding me how important discipline is!<br />MelissaMelissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02142384367554948671noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5845574752812091685.post-90155950181264030402009-06-10T14:44:19.835-04:002009-06-10T14:44:19.835-04:00We all need those Titus 2 friends in our lives. On...We all need those Titus 2 friends in our lives. One thing I've learned is that when it comes to kids allowing something once creates the "new" standard! They keep us on our toes!<br /><br />Thanks for sharing:)<br />--BethWisdom for Todayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02041815260497128360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5845574752812091685.post-6221023298374284282009-06-10T14:19:02.546-04:002009-06-10T14:19:02.546-04:00Thanks. Much needed reminder!Thanks. Much needed reminder!Isabelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18436630414457314465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5845574752812091685.post-71744897567019055642009-06-10T12:45:37.388-04:002009-06-10T12:45:37.388-04:00WONDERFUL post!!!!! I tweeted it out and plan to l...WONDERFUL post!!!!! I tweeted it out and plan to link back to it later on in your series, I get lots of ?s from other moms too about discipline and I just love that you are sharing about this in such a wonderful way.<br /><br />Thanks- CarisaCarisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16604735048729389564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5845574752812091685.post-50268033469155249632009-06-10T11:18:51.051-04:002009-06-10T11:18:51.051-04:00We also say Ephesians 6:1 and Exodus 12:20 after d...We also say Ephesians 6:1 and Exodus 12:20 after discipline.Goat Galhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03357281106627958793noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5845574752812091685.post-58511477636349312412009-06-10T11:06:03.616-04:002009-06-10T11:06:03.616-04:00Great job! And yes, first-time obedience is somet...Great job! And yes, first-time obedience is something that we keep reminding ourselves about, even now that my son is older. The "just-a-sec" creeps in and questions of why and then I realize that I haven't been doing my job.<br /><br />Nice post over At The Well too Sarah Mae!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06958936771590770427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5845574752812091685.post-35213676609782396282009-06-10T10:06:19.983-04:002009-06-10T10:06:19.983-04:00We ARE on the same page! God is awesome like that,...We ARE on the same page! God is awesome like that, isn't He!!! :) Great article! Looking to go read the one At the Well, too! :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5845574752812091685.post-50164242742096134802009-06-10T09:30:33.336-04:002009-06-10T09:30:33.336-04:00love hearing other moms' wisdom!love hearing other moms' wisdom!Kristen, pajama mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02336908966908604867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5845574752812091685.post-75762865795408060082009-06-10T09:15:40.069-04:002009-06-10T09:15:40.069-04:00I NEEDED this post today! My four year old has be...I NEEDED this post today! My four year old has been very negative and argumentive as of late, and your post made me realize that I need to work a little harder at getting him to listen to me on the first request. <br /><br />Thanks for the great post!Christinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01285710592244185817noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5845574752812091685.post-53754092550621834292009-06-10T09:15:25.867-04:002009-06-10T09:15:25.867-04:00I will admit it - I have thought of my children as...I will admit it - I have thought of my children as burdens, despite knowing God has given them to me as blessings. I get selfish - I get tired of the work - and I want a break. And that's when the bad attitude creeps in.<br /><br />Good Discipline takes a lot of maturity on my part, and I'm finding a great need for this advice and these suggestions and guidance. I appreciate this series and will refer to it often.Debbiehttp://thequeenmommy.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5845574752812091685.post-12122765344746336382009-06-10T08:43:34.382-04:002009-06-10T08:43:34.382-04:00Concerning first time obedience I've heard, &q...Concerning first time obedience I've heard, "Delayed obedience is disobedience."<br /><br />We've been watching Tedd Tripp's Shepherding a Child's Heart videos at church. I highly recommend them. <br /><br />www.homeschoolblogger.com/kristenphKristenphhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16663955956966072736noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5845574752812091685.post-2219847735173301142009-06-10T08:43:02.194-04:002009-06-10T08:43:02.194-04:00The Well post pops up in my reader first and then ...The Well post pops up in my reader first and then I saw yours and thought...wow, how neat that they both are covering the same topic. It's a God thing, and then I saw you wrote them first. :) Putting in the exhausting time to train them in first time obedience when they're young reaps such amazing rewards when they are older. When they are older, you don't want robots, but want them making that choice from true heart relationship, and that heart relationship comes from years of laying the ground work in the primary years. Great post. :)Jen - Balancing Beauty and Bedlamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09152743288585898776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5845574752812091685.post-26496730678323958992009-06-10T07:44:33.119-04:002009-06-10T07:44:33.119-04:00Great post, Sarah. I just sent you an email about...Great post, Sarah. I just sent you an email about this. :)Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17920191692445211563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5845574752812091685.post-26595095338470256112009-06-10T07:30:29.791-04:002009-06-10T07:30:29.791-04:00Thanks for sharing such good advice. It's so ...Thanks for sharing such good advice. It's so easy to get frazzled and fall into bad habits. And then, I think many (most) of us have that 1 child who just requires a whole new level of attention to discipline. A child who really "rattles the fences", tests all the boundaries we give. I think God gives us those kids to keep us humble :-)Tiffanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07191011478662020856noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5845574752812091685.post-57829622029418069062009-06-10T07:20:59.026-04:002009-06-10T07:20:59.026-04:00Excellent excellent post - I found you from Kristi...Excellent excellent post - I found you from Kristi yesterday and then today At the Well! I love your site! <br /><br />I posted a little game that you can play to train "first time obedience" if you are interested at:<br /><br />http://womenlivingwell-courtney.blogspot.com/2009/05/parenting-how-to-get-first-time.html<br /><br />Thanks for your encouragement today.Courtney (Women Living Well)https://www.blogger.com/profile/09656103671995728225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5845574752812091685.post-35632948146099914972009-06-10T02:57:03.111-04:002009-06-10T02:57:03.111-04:00Thank you for sharing this reminder and the words ...Thank you for sharing this reminder and the words of wisdom from the seasoned moms. I'm feeling a bit more encouraged now about facing my very two year-old daughter tomorrow! :)Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14267638517817280040noreply@blogger.com